Choosing ‘Daddy’ Over Democracy
from the tribalism-is-a-hell-of-a-drug dept
One of the things upon which I spend a lot of time pondering: watching right-leaning, but otherwise intelligent people in my life look at Donald Trump’s systematic destruction of constitutional government and see just mere incompetence, but generally normal politics. These aren’t people force-fed reactionary propaganda in media bubbles. These are sophisticated observers who, if the same fact patterns were playing out in Hungary or Venezuela, would immediately recognize authoritarian consolidation for what it is.
The only conclusion that makes sense is that some humans simply value tribal loyalty more than truth. Once that choice is made, everything else becomes motivated reasoning in service of protecting the tribe from its designated enemies.
The American right has achieved remarkable clarity about who their enemy is: “the left.” Whether it’s woke ideology, trans rights, Marxism, or whatever dark fantasy currently haunts their imagination, they’ve identified the existential threat that must be stopped at all costs. Once that becomes the organizing principle of your political worldview, everything else—competence, integrity, constitutional governance, basic honesty—becomes secondary to the primary mission of keeping “them” from power.
Donald Trump is obviously a fraud. A transparent con man who has never successfully negotiated anything beneficial for America in either of his administrations. There is no “art of the deal”—just decades of failed businesses, stiffed contractors, and elaborate schemes to avoid accountability for obvious crimes. His Republican enablers know this perfectly well.
But they also know who daddy is. And daddy is the guy their tribe gathers around, however repulsive and vulgar he might be.
Some of these people even recognize that Trump wants to be king. They can see the authoritarian impulses, the constitutional contempt, the obvious desire for unchecked power. But they reassure themselves that institutions will contain him, that checks and balances will hold, that somehow the system will prevent the worst outcomes. What they can’t admit is that institutions don’t constrain themselves—they’re constrained by people willing to defend them. And when daddy is systematically capturing those institutions, placing loyalists in every position of authority, redefining institutional purpose from public service to personal protection—the institutions become daddy’s tools rather than democracy’s safeguards.
Watch Republicans in Congress when Trump prostrates America before Vladimir Putin. You can see the embarrassment in their faces, feel their moral misapprehension at watching American soldiers kneel on tarmac to prepare red carpets for war criminals. They know what’s happening is wrong—deeply, obviously wrong.
But they also understand their role in the daddy dynamic: you give gentle suggestions while you watch him humiliate the country you claim to love. You offer private counsel while publicly defending his “negotiating style.” You express quiet concerns in closed-door meetings while voting to block any oversight that might constrain his collaboration with foreign adversaries.
The same psychology was on display after the Bolton raid. Republicans who spent years screaming about “weaponized law enforcement” fell silent when it actually happened—when the FBI raided a former National Security Advisor for the crime of writing a book critical of the president. They know it’s constitutional vandalism. They just can’t bring themselves to oppose daddy, even when he’s systematically destroying the institutions they claim will contain him.
The “daddy” dynamic captures both the infantilization involved—looking for a strong father figure to protect them from scary changes in the world—and the way authoritarian movements depend on personal loyalty rather than institutional consistency. Daddy doesn’t need to deliver results; he just needs to make the right enemies suffer. And if he happens to embarrass America on the world stage, collaborate with adversaries, or betray fundamental values—well, that’s just daddy being daddy.
There’s a stark contrast here with how truth-seekers operate. Liberals, genuine conservatives, and independents committed to democratic governance don’t look for daddy figures—they look for competent public servants accountable to constitutional constraints. They criticize their own leaders when those leaders fail or overreach. They value institutional integrity over personal loyalty. When Joe Biden’s classified documents were discovered, Democrats didn’t rally around him with excuses—they supported proper investigation. When Democratic governors gerrymanander, progressive activists organize against them. Truth-seekers understand that no individual is more important than the system of accountability itself.
But once you’ve chosen daddy over democracy, normal political persuasion becomes futile. You’re trying to have a rational policy debate with people who have fundamentally abandoned the framework where policies matter. They’re engaged in tribal warfare where competence matters less than loyalty, where truth matters less than victory, where national dignity matters less than keeping “them” from power.
The tragedy is watching intelligent people voluntarily surrender their analytical capacity to tribal belonging. They’ve chosen the comfort of knowing who their enemies are over the difficulty of thinking clearly about complex realities. They’ve chosen daddy over country, tribal identity over constitutional duty, personal loyalty over national interest.
This isn’t stupidity. It’s the deliberate subordination of truth-seeking to threat perception. Once someone becomes convinced that political opponents represent existential danger, everything else becomes tactical calculation. The question isn’t whether Trump is competent or honest or patriotic—the question is whether he’s useful for destroying the people who threaten their vision of America.
In tribal warfare, daddy doesn’t need to be good. He just needs to be theirs. And as long as loyalty trumps reality, daddy wins—even if it means America loses.
Republicans love daddy.
Mike Brock is a former tech exec who was on the leadership team at Block. Originally published at his Notes From the Circus.
Filed Under: authoritarian, daddy figure, democracy, donald trump, maga, tribalism
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Comments on “Choosing ‘Daddy’ Over Democracy”
mere incompetence?
No,no,no.
This is Corporate Incompetency.
HE is showing us, HOW he ruined his Own Business’s.
Which is How the Early 1900’s Corps were Run. Until they Figured out that the BOOS is NOT PERFECT. He NEEDS information, and others to HELP HIM.
Well put.
I think a lot of politicians are hoping that the Next Daddy will be them when the dust settles and believe that bending the knee will somehow put them in line to be that next Daddy. I don’t see it happening that way.
FTFY
Every person that capitulated needs to be dealt with, preferably by being lined up against a wall. That was the mistake after the Civil War.
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Someone needs to put a gif of Stephen running over in the distance like John Cleese in Holy Grail.
He’s bound to appear for another of his lectures over how it’s so wrong and evil to say we shouldn’t rule out actual physical resistance to the fascists because that would make us worse than them.
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So you are so stupid that you can’t tell the difference between Stephens personal opinion on the matter and other people advocating for violence?
The world must be a very confusing place for you.
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No, I actually agree with Phoenix: The Union’s two biggest mistakes in the War to Preserve Slavery were (1) not letting Sherman finish the damn job and (2) not hanging every traitor they could find as a warning after the war was over.
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I have never said we should rule out physical resistance. What I’ve said—and what you’ve ignored countless times in your obsession over me—is that actual physical violence should be the last resort for resistance when all other forms of non-violent resistance are either unavailable or wholly ineffective. And I’ve also said that when physical violence is necessary, lethal physical violence should also be the last resort.
You’re so enamored with this idea of me in your head being a suicidal pacifist that you’re either unable or unwilling to actually read the words I write here and give them proper understanding. My objection to violence is an objection to seeing it as the first, best, and only solution to a problem when violence should ideally be the absolute last resort—and that includes political problems. Violence causes more problems than it solves; it should be used sparingly and with as narrow an application as possible to keep it from causing more problems than one intends to cause.
I am not a suicidal pacifist. I believe in the life-changing power of actual physical violence. But I’m not someone who thinks picking up an AR-15 and going to DC with the intent to murder cops and soldiers is a good idea in any context. You, on the other hand, have been trying for MONTHS to goad me into endorsing that kind of violence by heavily implying that it’s the only real way to resist Donald Trump and his goons. (You failed again, by the way.) You whine and you bitch and you moan about nobody having any answers, but the only answer you seem willing to endorse is “shoot MAGA people in the head”, and I’m not going to join you in that. All the emotionally manipulative bullshit you have in your back pocket won’t work on me because you’re not that clever and I’m not that stupid.
Now, will you finally evict me from your head? I didn’t ask to live there and it smells like shit, so I’d very much like to leave it (and you) behind.
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That think there are only 2 Choices to Anything.
To KEEP a democracy, and to have the BEST selection of Choices, YOU MUST HAVE CHOICE.
Once they take it away, THEN THEY do not have Choice. But we do.
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Dude, you really need to get over your Stephen obsession. It’s not healthy.
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And here we are with the Confederacy rising again and no Tecumseh Sherman in sight.
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Where is the “tech”?
When I read posts like this, I can’t help but wonder why they’re on this platform. There must be thousands of places to post political commentary. Seems like it has very little to do with technology.
Re: 'This is a book club, why are you all talking about how the ship is sinking?'
When I read posts like this, I can’t help but wonder why they’re on this platform.
Because when your house is on fire a discussion as to what the best tv to replace the current one or how ethical/unethical the different brands are becomes a luxury, with your immediate concerns focused on the immediate threat.
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Hey bob. Go take you feelings, and give them to dead kids. I hope you watch your family and friends die and then kill yourself after realizing that fuck wads like you not caring is exactly why it happened.
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Concern troll has a concern.
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Seriously! And when I read USA Today articles, I realize they’re talking about stuff that happened yesterday! And don’t get me started on the Washington Post. George Washington has been dead for over two hundred years. There’s no way he’s writing articles now. Did you know that the New York Times and LA Times don’t only report on time related issues like daylight savings or the measure of a millisecond?!? Boston is a city, not a globe! Arizona is a state, not a republic! Did you know they charge for the Detroit Free Press? And nobody announces Miami’s participation at a jousting event who works for the Miami Herald!
It’s just about ethics in real journalism!
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And every time I watch Fox News, I wonder… where are the foxes? Why aren’t they talking about foxes?
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They do very rarely have actual coverage of foxes at least. But not nearly enough to justify the name. Still a world where fox news covered nothing but news about foxes would be a far better one.
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Even when they describe a vixen protecting her cubs as participating in the “woketocracy”.
Didn't I mention 'priorities' already...?
“If conservatives become convinced that they cannot win democratically, they will not abandon conservatism. They will reject democracy.”
~ David Frum, 2018
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(Note that Frum is a conservative journalist, former speechwriter for President George W. Bush, and as of this last November, officially an ex-Republican)
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I’ve seen some similar cheering over the proposed retaliatory gerrymandering in (if I remember correctly) California – this follows the same “Daddy” playbook.
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The one that the people of California get to vote on?
Get fucked, liar.
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If they’re not gonna play fair why should we?
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And it’s about damn time that Democrats actually asked themselves that instead of trying to fight with one hand tied behind their backs and one hand trying to “reach across the aisle” to placate Republicans. THROW SOME GODDAMN ELBOWS, YOU CENTRIST FUCKS.
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As I’ve seen it put it’s not even a matter of ‘playing fair’, rather it’s a matter of playing by the same rules. Republicans have decided that openly rigging elections are the new rules so democrats are merely playing by the new rules when they respond in kind.
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Fucking child.
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Since I got flagged for seemingly exposing an uncomfortable truth that various Democrat cheerleaders don’t want to hear. I would thus like to draw attention to this part of the article.
This applies to both the GOP gerrymandering of Texas and the proposed Democrat gerrymandering of California.
The long and short of it is that gerrymandering is bad no matter which party does it. That various Democrat cheerleaders are seeing it as trying to cover for the GOP is the exact same “Daddy” playbook the article is talking about – just blue instead of red.
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Gerrymandering sucks. But if Republicans are doing it to give themselves—and by extension, Donald Trump—an advantage in the midterms, Democrats should absolutely do it to level the playing field. That “when they go low, we go high” shit doesn’t cut it any more.
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This sounds like a conservative explaining why the government shouldn’t fund programs to help poor people. “Everyone is equal so why are we treating poor people like they’re special?”
If one team appoints themselves as the referees and cheats during the game for their own benefit, the rules don’t matter anymore. You don’t win a rigged game by playing fair and not fighting back is just tacitly approving of the cheating.
Or if you want to be a little more blunt...
It’s.
A.
Cult.
And just like every other cult throughout history rule #1 is ‘The cult leader is never wrong’.
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Conservatism never fails, you fail conservatism. Trump owns the party, its his till he lets go or dies. You can only suck up to him, do what he says, and if you fail, its your fault for not paying the correct bribes.
Legality be dammed, Daddy Trump can always give you a free pass. Just don’t be to good at your job or he will toss you under a bus for coming after his job.
I’m not convinced they would. The historical record does not particularly support a model in which American ideologues are any good at acknowledging authoritarian tendencies in foreign powers. We only really recognize those authoritarians who are detrimental to American foreign policy interests, and even that is based almost entirely on the latter instead of the former; non-authoritarians who are detrimental to American interests are routinely painted with the same brush.
Uh, that is normal. Tribal loyalty is an instinct and survival trait. Truth is an abstract concept. The reason truthfulness is such a big thing is that it puts you with the largest tribe: lies fragment people into incompatible camps with shifting separation.
The scientific process does not work because everybody is capable of delving into matters to the degree necessary for verification: it works through a network of ultimately relying on experts determined by a common trust.
Truth is complex concept that enables you to be part of the largest and dependable tribe because it is the only thing that will stand up to any amount of scrutiny without having to back down. But it is a constant hassle to pursue and keep track of.
Enter Trump.
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Then there’s gender ideology, which stole the imprimatur of science and captured institutions with the aid of the left, and pushed a repulsive web of lies that is only now finally unraveling. So, yeah, “truth”.
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Yes, yes, you want Trump to start rounding up and exterminating queer people and women who “refuse to know their place”, we get it. If you’re posting here, who’s keeping tabs on the men’s rights forum you moderate?
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The right wants women to “know their place” to keep men from forcing their way into it.
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And where, pray tell, do right-wingers think women belong? Inquiring minds would love to know if the answer is anything but “the kitchen” or “the maternity ward”.
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Men aren’t interested in being in women’s places, and just because an adult has a penis, that doesn’t automatically mean they’re a man, or was even assigned male at birth. Ever heard of intersex girls and women?
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This is literally someone using the language of inclusion to attack people, but the trolls will probably overlook this instance so they can continue to accuse people of that offense whenever they commit the “crime” of defending minorities here.
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It’s not defending minorities when you intentionally misinterpret someone’s words in order to attack them. That makes you a troll.
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Correct, and that’s what makes them bigots and you a troll for defending them.
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That’s a really weak tu quoque and not a useful response. There’s substance in pointing out that you’re weaponizing the language of inclusion to attack people who definitely aren’t intending the slights that you’re intentionally misperceiving. Hell, you’re attacking minorities using the language of inclusion. And this all started because you brought it up out of nowhere because you can’t let it go.
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No human has ever said such.
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FYI, there’s no evidence that AC is Grok.
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All I read from you is “my fifth grade science class in 1962 is the last I remember anything about science and everything that came after that is just gay transgender heathens trying to subvert the will of the lord!”
The scientific method is literally a continual process that takes in new information and attempts to remove old biases. I’m (not) sorry your personal bias happened to get left behind. I’m sure the plum pudding atom theory dudes were upset when their model was proven obsolete.
And within thirty years there will be new discoveries that contradict what current scientists consider likely.
The only web of lies here is the ones you’ve told to convince yourself that you know enough and never need to consider you might be wrong.
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— Rebecca Helm
The right has always derided the left as wanting a “Nanny State”
But their desire for a “Daddy State“ has been evident for decades.
How long before Hegseth announces that California has WMD?
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White male democrats. Oh my!
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Weapons of Masculinity Derision? Man, those are the worst.
It seems like a couple of things that the MAGA crowd want are; “a strong leader”, someone that is seen to be taking action, (even if it’s more harmful than good), and someone that tells them how great it is going to be for them (it doesn’t matter how it’s achieved). The question I have is, how do I find compassion for them while the ship is steered into the rocks?
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You don’t. Watch out for your own, and stockpile ammo to keep MAGAts at bay the best you can.
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Oh that’s simple, you don’t. MAGAts consider empathy and compassion to be sins and/or signs of weakness, so by their own ideology they deserve and should be shown none.
Fox mentioned several times that daddy is home, that america has been a bad girl, and that she needs a spanking.
So yes, applying the moniker daddy to dear leader is exactly how they look at it.
It’s worse than that – it’s a highly abusive ‘daddy’ relationship too.
“Daddy says he loves me, but he always gets drunk and beats the crap out of me. I must be doing something wrong.”
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And that’s how abuse gets handed down through the generations: “Well, my daddy hit me when I was a kid, and I turned out fine.” (Except no, they didn’t turn out fine.)
Choosing 'Daddy' Over Democracy
Mike, as one of those highly intelligent people you mention, I have to say your rhetoric is quite ignorant of a number of things.
The article sticks to a us vs them loop (false dichotomy), which is circular which follows a structure similar to what’s called a struggle session of caustic criticism which is borderline Woke. Incidentally Woke-ism/DEI today is largely an amalgamation of elements from both Maoism and Post-Marxism.
The modern structures like it that are used today are mostly based in Mao’s thought reform variations. Basically torture through overwhelming circular compulsion/coercion loops until people break.
People break in three distinct stages. First stage rational thought diminishes, confusion sets in exhibiting symptoms similar to schizophrenia until one cannot cope. Second, involuntary hypnosis and adoption of distorted reflective appraisal elements are adopted in similar manner to cults at a core identity level, and third disassociation (thousand-yard stare/hollow) or a semi-lucid psychosis seeking annihilation and capable of planning usually targeted at a specific agitator responsible for said torture.
Quite a lot of people today are brainwashed to be willfully blind to a lot of things, which is fueled by the indoctrination of centralized education during vulnerable development and media.
If you’d like to read up on this I’d suggest starting with Joost Meerloo/Robert Lifton/Robert Cialdini. The former will cover the common things and overview quite well. The latter two cover elements, structure, and clustering of blindspots. Even addiction plays a role in suggestability in such altered states which the people themselves don’t often realize.
Your vitriol towards intelligent people is based more on fallacy or your own ignorance than anything else.
You don’t recognize torture, or what torture does to people, and blame the people that would know correctly what’s going on.
Intelligent people who retain their reason recognize what’s happening, and equally recognize that they can do nothing to change it because of how society has warped and blinded perception through science.
Communication and Perception in many respects has been broken by such brainwashing techniques, and their derivatives. Education has been withheld so you don’t recognize it happening (rhetoric/critical thinking) and thus have no defense. A state of complete dependency and total compromise of the individual in favor of the State.
What you do not address is the tragedy of the commons.
It is a widely held opinion among intelligent people that by the time you see there is a fascism problem, its too late to do anything about it. The time to stop is dependent on power structures which quickly degrade; it is within a very narrow period of time after which it self-sustains because fascism is a positive feedback system which continues until circumstances align for catastrophe.
Some Historian’s have surmised that the circumstances that allowed Hitler’s rise to power came about primarily not because of the reparations alone but because of the Communist/Marxist subversives who had sabotaged and interfered in all aspects of common life using common tactics to inflame the population, alongside the economic repression of WW1, to bring the country to crisis.
The common regime-change playbook is about demoralization to drive a public platform, destabilization to make a resilient system brittle, the split cohort will then bring to crisis where a small group can sieze power, and then renormalize (often through fatal means towards those who have been induced to cause chaos in the first few stages).
The crisis is often orchestrated and intended to force everyone into only two camps. Its irregular warfare. Those camps being Fascist or Communist.
Given the choice, fascism is preferable to communism because modern communism drives the intelligent population insane, and destroying the means to resist towards greater control which then inevitably through flaws within destroys themselves in the end in total socio-economic collapse. A spiral of madness where the longer it persists the greater the chance at extinction.
The indirect loop results in shifts ever closer to failure are inherent in Communist ideologies. They can persist as a parasite so long as they have a host.
There’s a longstanding conjecture that when socialist/communist (leftist) movements are unable to sieze power like this, then fascist/autocratic movements are the outcome as the adversarial movement becomes existential threat and all constraints are lifted, and with recent events that seems almost certain.
The intelligent people who retain their reason understand the futility of resisting a runaway system, and the masses have been brainwashed to the point where those intelligent people cannot be understood by the masses; sheeple. These situations are similar to historic events like the Inquisition where brain drain occurs dramatically.
Intelligent people have a cumulative effect on making those around them more intelligent. Elevating everyone. When there is a war on the intelligent, where they are targeted in a myriad of ways, these effects diminish to the lowest common denominator, as happens in any centralized power structure like government and actual work done.
What follows from the point of crisis is the same outcome of all empires. When you examine what allowed this to happen, you have to go to incentives and constraints. The people who should have become leadership were not allowed to because of systematic manipulation. In more recent years this appears to be through money-printing in the form of debt, and a population that over time becomes less capable because of the subtle war inflicted on the masses and intelligent by the average through torture.
Intelligent people’s awareness let them see more, and thus are more susceptible to such tactics.
When the rule of law fails historically, its too late to do anything to stop the fall because of hysteresis. There is nothing to force action on those in power thereafter, and that leaves only the inevitable reversion to the rule of natural law based in violence. This is commonly understood with a bit of background on the social contracts.
If you want to have a further discussion on this please feel free to reach out. I’ve done a lot of research on this, and my professional background is IT System’s Engineering; where many of the things I’ve learned apply to all forms of systems.
When you fall into the rhetoric of left vs. right, you neglect the truth in favor of psyop manipulation.
The truth is each side contains two cohorts, those that use it as a platform for election calling out the opposite side, and those that pretend to be the opposite side and then sabotage the party they pretend to be, and that sabotage often aligns towards one favored groups. The bankers/Fed because that is how they get funded and maintain political capture. The math is that two parties exceeding 33% of the voting population guarantees no third party can ever be in power.
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That’s a whole lot of words to say “I’m a Republican, stop trying to hurt Daddy”.
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If you self-identify as “highly intelligent,” you likely overestimate your intelligence.
Except it doesn’t, because democracy isn’t a singular side. There are diverse groups of people who value democracy. It’s not just the left or liberals or whoever you consider “them” to be.
False dichotomies aren’t inherently circular. That’s a completely different logical fallacy.
Pointing out that selfish people are siding with an authoritarian figure for their own benefit is not some communist conspiracy. That you have to resort to that conclusion is bias confirmation at its worst. That you think you’re highly intelligent but draw such obviously biased conclusions indicates you fool yourself more than you even think you’re capable of fooling others.
Also, your use of this phrase “struggle session of caustic criticism” in this article is literally the only search result for it. Who else is using this phrase and can you provide a citation?
Woke is a boogeyman with no fixed definition beyond “stuff conservatives don’t like.” Ironically, it’s the conservative version of “you call everyone you disagree with a fascist” except you are actually using a term that has no substantial meaning and there is an actual, academic definition of fascism and many conservatives have embraced actual fascism.
Let me guess–bachelors degree in anti-wokeism from Prager U or Liberty University? Minor in Gish gallop? Post grad in post-truth Shapirisms?
I love the implication that you basically have to be a dirty commie to think black people, women, gay people, and transgender people shouldn’t be discriminated against. Being a decent human being is apparently very radical.
Yes, anyone opposing obvious authoritarianism definitely wants to seize the means of production and institute authoritarian communism. It’s not possible for rational people to disagree with those who would tear down societal, legal, and ethical norms for personal profit and power. They must all be damn pinko commies!
[citation needed] You’re talking like a freshmen psych student in a survey course. The claim that the diminishing of rational thought features similar symptoms to schizophrenia tells me you definitely aren’t a practicing or licensed psychiatrist or psychologist. A trained academic or practitioner wouldn’t make such a claim.
IT Systems genius doesn’t leave any contact info. “Reach out!”
There are few types of people more insufferable than techbros who think their niche applied science knowledge is universal to all human systems and to human psychology and sociology.
I really hope you’re young and have decades more to grow out of this.
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[Citation needed]
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Oh, there’s always something that can be done about a fascist problem. But when that problem gets to a certain point, the only thing that can be done is what American anti-fascists did to German fascists from 1942 to 1945.
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My point exactly, but the main point I was addressing was that it’s too late to do anything by the time the problem is seen by anybody, which is not true. One can always call out the problem and hope others take collective action with them rather than defending the fascists as so many trolls here tend to do.